Fresh start

"You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call 'failure' is not the falling down, but the staying down." --Mary Pickford

Having a fresh start any time you want one? What freedom this creates.

And, the implication is that you don't get to repeatedly beat yourself up over failures, mistakes, and shortcomings. What a concept!

To choose a fresh start often. To let the past go constantly. I'm in--how about you?


Stress no more

I read an article in Redbook magazine recently that suggested a fun exercise to manage stress. It was attributed to Dr. Kathleen Hall of the Stress Institute in Atlanta so she gets all the credit here.

If stress takes over sometimes or if you're just one of those people who forgets to schedule fun, this is worth a try and it's simple which is always a plus.

Label one half of a sheet of paper 'credit' and the other half 'debit'. On the debit side, write down five things that are causing you stress, worry and/or anxiety. On the credit side, write down five things that make you calm, relaxed and/or happy.

Next, schedule time this week to make progress on one item from your debit list and also schedule time for at least one of the activities on your credit list.

Voila! You're taking action on the things that drain you and nurturing yourself along the way. Do this every week and I can almost guarantee you'll feel the difference in no time.



"Complaining allows us to acknowledge the imperfect without having to take action--it lets us luxuriate in inertia." --Roxane Gay

Oh, how we love to complain. And, luxuriating in inertia almost sounds like a good thing. But, complaining can easily turn into a lifestyle if you let it.

I'm not saying you can't bemoan things here and there. Sometimes you have to get it out of your system so you can move on.

If you find yourself lamenting something over and over, though, it's worth considering that your time just might be better spent doing something else. One possibility? Taking steps to change the thing you don't like.


Work Worth Doing

"Far and away the best prize that life offers is the chance to work hard at work worth doing." --Theodore Roosevelt

Yesterday my fabulous co-author and I filmed a book trailer to promote a book we wrote based on the work we do. Pinch me!

I think the reason I know the absolute joy of this moment in my career is because I've also experienced the flip side of the coin. I worked for years in a series of jobs that left me feeling unmotivated, uninspired and, at times, just plain unhappy.

About 12 years ago, though, I realized I just couldn't do it anymore, and, I made the leap. I'm not saying it's all been rosy. I've made sacrifices (regular paychecks and paid benefits come to mind) but I can tell you without a doubt, doing something that makes me feel like I'm contributing has made all the difference in my life.

I hope this tidbit finds you working hard at something worth doing. If not, just know that it's absolutely possible. You may need to find the worthwhile part in your current job. Or you may choose to make baby steps toward a new career. Either way, I'm rooting for you. I'm not promising all sunshine and rainbows but I do think President Roosevelt was on to something.


Bad Times

"You will have bad times, but they will always wake you up to the stuff you weren't paying attention to." --Robin Williams

It's so true. The hard times in life have a way of making us appreciate and long for the simplicity of before.

It doesn't have to be that way, though. We can choose to relish the present. We can choose to remind ourselves that now is the best time time to enjoy the gift of today.