"If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back."
I love going on walks and doing one of my favorite things: looking at other people's houses. I like seeing how other people live and I especially like finding the rooms that are well-decorated and tidy but still have some signs of the lives that happen within.
The one thing I have to be careful of, though, is that I tend to assume that the occupants, based simply on decor I admire or a cute front porch, have idyllic and uncomplicated lives.
I imagine that they never yell at their kids. Or, that, because they have drapes I envy, they have more money than they'll ever need. Or, that they probably have healthy meals on the table every night--and their well-adjusted kids happily eat those healthy meals.
This type of thinking can quickly lead to a not-so-great place (think jealousy, despair, exhaustion). That's why I love this quote. After all, I have no idea what's really going on inside those walls.
And, when I stop to think about what goes on inside the walls where I live, I realize that what we have--though more often than not I'm greeted by discarded kid shoes in our entryway--is pretty darned close to what I want.
"If you obey all the rules you miss all the fun." --Katherine Hepburn
From years of coaching, I've noticed that we all have our own set of rules that we've made up for ourselves. Some of them serve us well and some of them really need to be questioned-or even broken.
For instance, I have a rule that says I must pick up litter when I see it. For some reason, I just can't walk by a piece of trash. That rule serves me just fine-it's easy enough to follow and the Earth is better off because of it.
On the other hand, I have another rule for myself that says I need to finish all of my work before I can do the things I want to do. This translates into day after day of lots of work and not much play. Apparently I'm a slow learner because I've been following this rule for years, not catching on to the fact that I will never finish all of my work and that I'm the only one responsible for that.
This week, notice the rules you've made up for yourself and, if you find one that deserves to be questioned, I urge you to bend or maybe even break it.
"How does one come to the point in his or her life when he or she is not only ready, but eager and willing--however terrifying the prospect might be--to self-execute such a leap of faith without any guarantees that it will do any good?"--Michael E. Gerber
I feel like many of us experience this in life. We want to make a change, we yearn for something different, but it's just so darned scary. If you begin to look for it, you'll probably notice in people all around you the desire to shake things up a bit.
For some, this is a seemingly small shift in how they approach something--but a first step nonetheless. For others, this means finally, and deliberately, moving toward dreams they've been putting off. And, while it can be scary to take a leap of faith, it's also exhilarating.
So, let me ask you this? What have you been yearning to do? What "someday" pursuit is it time to take action on? What's possible for you in the next year? In the next 5 years? Because, while there are no guarantees that it will all work out, I'm willing to bet that you'll never regret taking the leap.