Feelings, nothing more than feelings

"But I don't believe that life is supposed to make you feel good, or to make you feel miserable either. Life is just supposed to make you feel." --Gloria Naylor

Well, of course some things will almost always make you feel good. And, some things will inevitably make you feel bad.  


But, what if we realized that the good and bad of most things are our judgements on them? What if we stopped categorizing everything in life? What if we took a moment to just appreciate the ability to feel at all? 


I'm not talking about the big things that knock us off our feet. I'm talking about those little things throughout the day that we give so much power to. The red lights and the bad drivers and the stubbed toe.  


What if those were just reminders to take a deep breath? And, what if we tried think of those bad things as giving us the ability to appreciate the good? What if? 



Busy, busy, busy

 "When we get too caught up in the busyness of the world, we lose connection with one another - and ourselves." --Jack Kornfield  

Almost everyone I've been around lately is busy. Busy, busy, busy. In addition to our obligations, the world throws lots of choices our way. We could, in fact, be busy every minute of every day for the rest of our lives. And, guess what? We'd still have a long to-do list.

So, here is my challenge to you: take a few minutes today to just be. You may have to pretty much force yourself to do it (think about the absurdity of THAT for a minute) but it's so important because it's in that quiet space that we are able reconnect with ourselves and with what's most important to us.

I double dog dare you to try it. And, I guarantee it will be time well spent.


New Year

"Let our New Year's resolution be this: we will be there for one another as fellow members of humanity, in the finest sense of the word." --Goran Persson

I'm not a huge resolution person. In fact, I tell my clients to only make resolutions if they are small enough to easily accomplish and if they are linked to something bigger: a value or a priority that will provide the motivation needed to follow through.

But, this one put forth by Goran Persson? I can get behind this one wholeheartedly. It's a big endeavor and no doubt challenging at times but if we all did this, if we were all there for each other because of this shared experience of life? Well, just imagine how worthwhile that one resolution would be.

 Happy 2015, everyone!


Take a rest

"Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop." --Ovid

I hope this week brings you time to enjoy your family and friends as well as time to relax and recharge.

I'm going to heed Ovid's advice for a couple of weeks so I'll take this opportunity to say Happy New Year. Thank you so much for reading and commenting on my tidbits this year.

Here's to a fabulous 2015 for all of us!


Joy is a choice

"Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day." --Henri J.M. Nouwen

I'm learning this lesson often lately as we deal with some middle school drama. It's tough trying to teach someone else to choose joy when you aren't feeling much like choosing it yourself. But, it's so worth it.

Luckily, there is no shortage of things to be joyful about. You may need to spend a bit of time looking but that effort will pay off every day that you decide to pursue it.